When you got married, you never thought it would end in divorce. You’re still not sure that divorce is the best option right now. Although going through a divorce seems like a scary, heartbreaking process, it is sometimes necessary. In fact, some people come to feel that it was one of the best decisions they ever made.
How do you know when it’s finally time to start filing for divorce papers? Here are some major signs that you need to consult a divorce lawyer.
Marriage counseling isn’t working
Attending marriage counseling is already the first sign that your marriage might be a little rocky. You both recognized the problem, but it doesn’t seem to be helping. Does your spouse not attend sessions? Do they seem completely uninterested and uninvested in fixing your marriage? Do you feel the same way? It’s time to find a divorce lawyer.
Your spouse is no longer your ‘rock’
Your spouse should be the person you want to go to for almost everything. You should want to tell your spouse about the bad day you had, your fears, your stresses, and all of the good things too. Do you no longer want to share these times in your life with them? Do you no longer want to share experiences with them, either? If you find yourself avoiding your spouse, it’s time for divorce help.
Being alone seems better than being with your spouse
Do you feel a sudden weight lifted off your shoulders when your spouse is not around? Do you feel tense when they walk into the room? Do you count down the minutes until you’re alone again? Are you starting to fantasize about a life without them? If you answered ‘yes’ to any or all of these questions, you probably need a divorce lawyer. You don’t want to live your life wishing you could be on your own.
According to a study published in the Journal of Family Issues, 19.2% of married couples say they got a divorce because of incompatibility, and 10.6% said that they got divorced because drinking or drug abuse was involved in their marriage. No matter what your reason for divorce, you have the right to be happy. Get the advice of divorce lawyers so you can get through the process, then you and your spouse can both move on.